Have You Lost Your Instincts?

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Become the true master of your life. Sometimes we do so much for others that our vision can become skewed or ideas get lost. Sometimes we focus entirely on one aspect of life, like earning money or public acknowledgement, and then trust other life aspects to be decided by others. On first glance, that singular focus can look like the easy or justified important choice for your life energy. But, like many easy choices, it actually becomes a much harder and complicated situation from which to escape when you realize the rest of your life is out of your control. Along this path, you may have lost your instincts for keen observation, intuitive knowing, safety, and self-actualization.

Are you with your soul family, or are you with friends and family who may not want to support your life decisions that could disturb them? Have you allowed or enabled another to redact content from your life-plan pages? Are you feeling bound by highly restrictive cultural and societal expectations--or a desire for positive public perception and approval resulting from your own ego and pride? It can be hard to balance yourself when you are surrounded by demanding people. It can be even harder to search inside oneself to understand what emotional wounds may be causing prideful ego to drive decision-making. If you are unfamiliar with unhealed childhood wounds, or traumas, these experiences such as neglect, emotionally distant parents/caregivers, or worse, can result in adult behaviors of co-dependency, trying to fix others, the fear of abandonment, a need for external validations or to prove oneself, and people pleasing/deprioritizing one's own needs, amongst other behaviors. Look closely at the type of people with whom you've surrounded yourself and attract.

Of course, assess your responsibilities, then step back and become clear on what will give you a deeper and more fulfilling life. I suggest practicing self-care to rebalance and begin to heal from life traumas. Professional guidance is available to assist in healing. Your life is about YOU--your journey, your lessons, your development, your expression. Follow your heart, and make positive changes. And, seek supporters who genuinely want you to thrive.
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Some of you may relish the wisdom in the book, Women Who Run With The Wolves, by Clarissa Pinkola Estés...myths and stories of the wild woman archetype. Perhaps about 20 years ago, I discovered her insight to better understand how we make decisions and fall into traps.--Jeannette Bondurant​© 2024
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